Monday, December 15, 2008

Moral Meltdown? The Dream of J-School Hotties Everywhere

This morning I read an interesting blog post about a j-school senior whose life is financed by an older (apparently buff - see picture :o ) sugar daddy who also works in the media industry. In her first post on the topic, published November 30, she explained how she met him and how they decided to enter into a relationship akin to - in her own words - "prostitution":

"But when I got to college, I spent the first two years straining for financial independence. I tried working, but in retail, surrounded by temptation all day, I spent more than I made. Waiting tables was exhausting. I went on several job interviews, but all of the internships were unpaid. As my years in college wore on, it was evident that the job market was sliding into decline. When the economic climate grew worse, my friends panicked that their resumes and high GPAs wouldn’t be enough to give them a leg up on the competition, and my goal became getting my foot in the door before everyone else.

And then, just such an opportunity presented itself. During my job hunt, I met a potential employer. He was in his early 30s, single, and successful. He didn’t hire me, but he did suggest a position that seemed perfectly suited to my attributes and skills: He proposed that he become my benefactor."

Wow, talk about a job interview going better than expected!

But after posting, the author received a number of negative reader comments and decided to write again about her living arrangement - this time with input from her sugar daddy himself:

"[J-School Student]: So the majority of bloggers felt that our relationship was prostitution, with me as the prostitute and you as the john, mainly because of the financial aspect of our relationship. What would you say to them?

[Media Sugar Daddy]: Well, I would say that I think of our relationship as pretty much a marriage. Just like a husband provides for his wife, I provide for you. I'm lucky enough to be able to financially give you anything you could want, and if people resent that then that's too bad for them. I think the biggest misconception with some of the readers was that we aren't monogamous. Neither of us have any other kind of relationship, whether emotional or sexual, with anyone else."

Now, I feel some kind of way about this - a mixture between jealous, morally superior and outraged. I'll tell you why in a subsequent post, but for now, what's your opinion of this J-School Hotties' hotbed of money lifestyle?

3 comments:

  1. Hmmm... this sounds like the age old dilemma of dealing with salary disparities in a relationship. It happens all the time. Unfortunately, I think it is in poor taste to discuss their arrangement. If this man wants to pay for his girlfriend to go to school, then why not? Women like to get all high and mighty and say we don't want to be "beholden" to a man and pay our own way...but I think that is hypocrisy. Women do the exact same thing when supporting men while they pursue their men. We may work, while hubby/bf/whoever goes to school,starts his business. Or, we stay at home with the kids and keep house while he handles his high-profile job. I think this situation is no different, except the roles are reversed (and the couple seems a bit more "pragmatic" about the arrangement).

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  2. This young lady is being financially resourceful. Would it be better if he was buying her useless trinkets and toys like designer clothes, cars and the such? He is investing in her as a partner, and she's investing in herself as a (future) media professional. Maybe I wouldn't have told the world about the arrangement, but that's another dilemma...when you're maintaining a blog, how personal is TOO personal ?

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  3. Interesting.
    Would I do it? If I cared for him and he offered, then yes.
    Would I blog about it, Hell no!
    Many people have been in similar situations but call it by other names. This "couple" is just being truthful. I don't think it is any different from your partner helping you out while you go to school fulltime.
    It's not prostitution, and those who think it is are prudes or just jealous.

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